When most people talk about what they want to provide for their kids they talk about giving their children what they didn’t have growing up.
I want to do the opposite. I don’t want my daughter to have as much as I had growing up.
Let me back up for a second here. I love my parents. They gave me and my brother such a wonderful upbringing and I am forever grateful that I was raised by them. But we were some spoiled kids.
I Had Too Much Stuff Growing Up
You remember that annoying kid growing up that seemed to get all the hot toys and gadgets as soon as they were released? That was me. Whether it be a Super Nintendo, CD players, comic books, or that hot new Vanilla Ice album – you name it and I probably had it. I know I just dated myself :). If 1992 Vic lived in today’s time he’d have the new iPad, the new iPhone, and both an Xbox One and a Playstation 4. With like 10 games each.
It wasn’t until after I graduated college when I first really understood the value of money. Money always came easy to me. Growing up I felt that no matter what I needed or wanted, my parents would help me out. I used this as a crutch most of my life. While I will always be there to support my daughter with whatever she needs, I don’t want my her to grow up always using her parents as a safety net like I did.
I Barely Worked Growing Up
I never really worked until I graduated college. Since everything always came so easy for me, I barely worked or did chores growing up. I did one time work at KFC for ONE DAY because I realized I was too lazy to work. Sure I had a few jobs in college but to me that was just bonus money to buy video games and clothes. I would often use the excuse that I shouldn’t work because I wanted to focus on my studies. Which was complete BS because I spent most of my youth playing video games.
Whether it be babysitting, tutoring, or mowing the lawn – I want Addie to know the meaning of work. It will help build character and force her to learn time management while earning her own money. My best friend Tippy had a similar privileged upbringing as I did, but unlike me her parents made her WORK. From working at a pizza place to helping out with her parents dry cleaning business, she knows how to hustle. She’s now one of the more successful people I know, and it had a lot to do with the work ethic she learned from her parents at an early age.
Growing up spoiled definitely had a negative effect on me as I was lazy and lacked direction most of my life until I graduated college. I’m thankful for my wife who helped me grow from a spoiled, entitled boy to a father devoted to taking care of his family. My wife was the complete opposite of me growing up. She grew up poor and worked really hard to become the successful woman she is today. Because of her, I learned the value of a dollar and hard work.
I know there are times when my daughter is growing up that she’ll be mad at me for not getting her everything she wants. Addie will always be my baby girl, so there will be times I will spoil her. Everything in moderation, right? I plan to do everything to make sure she gets everything she needs, not necessarily everything she wants. Hopefully it’ll be something she appreciates when she’s my older.
I want my daughter to live a blessed life, not a spoiled one.